Speak Up

Silence isn’t always golden. This is a phrase I shared in 2011 on my Facebook page.

Silence- complete absence of sound (noun) google definition.

I was never one who always spoke up for myself for failure to get on someone’s bad side. All this changed after I’ve realized Silence isn’t always golden. Speaking up allows the other person to know how you’re feeling, whether you’re in agreement or not. It’s important to share your feelings without fear of the outcome.

I’ve been reading books, listening to podcasts talking to people who are very unapologetic about who they are and what they bring to the table. If you’re at a job and you have all the ideas that would make a process work and you don’t say anything, that is to your detriment. How many times have you missed an opportunity to share ideas and even get ahead in life? What has your silence done for you?

After reading the book The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F$@k – Mark Manson it has further cemented me to speak up or focus more directly on what makes me happy. Putting yourself first allows you to strive, to grow and achieve things that you’ve always wanted to achieve.

Whatever you do or say always focus on the bottom line YOU. Ensure that all your encounters leaves you satisfied with your response to any situation. It doesn’t happen over night it takes practice and drive. Never miss another opportunity to shine because you remained silent.

Silence isn’t always golden.

Until next post….

Dee

Dealing with Failure

It’s almost that time of the year when I look forward to Blogmas and all the other challenges out there. I also am closer to celebrating my blogversary. Almost 1 year ago I started this blog.

I’m back, I know I’ve been MIA for a hot minute. I took some well needed break and if I’m being honest I still feel that I could use a little more. However, I just wanted to touch base with all the persons who are keeping this blog alive , reading my posts ,liking and sharing it with family and friends. Thank you all.

I also want to say to the people who are struggling to hold on. Its not easy, I know. I have been going to school and trying to do the things that I have ignored to do because of PTSD. One of the worst feelings ever is learning that I have failed something. I’m not perfect and yes, like everyone else you would have learned something, that experience gives you the edge once you attempt it again. I know, however that initial feeling of not being good enough ,that feeling knowing you went in confident and you believed that you got something to only hear no, I’m sorry you have to do it over ,you missed a mark . It’s devastating. I’ve been dealing with this and while I’m getting the help I need it’s tough.

It’s OK. Your feelings are valid. Take every chance you get to heal and push forward. I am doing just that, it’s nerve-wracking, but I believe in you.

How do you deal with failure?

Until next time,

Dee

My Fitness Journey

You have to be intentional, at least that’s what I’m telling myself. It all came up through an online meeting I had with my team. Work colleague of mine said she needed someone to workout with; asked if I would be her accountability partner and like the supportive person I am, I accepted. I told her, that I had a few gears I had ordered on Amazon until they’re here we wouldn’t start maybe light stuff.

The items got here yesterday (6/30) well part of my order. A jump rope and a Gallon water bottle. The one with the motivational prompts. I figured if I’m going to do this I needed the push.

Gal. Water Bottle and Skipping rope

Day 1.

I started drinking water later than expected however by the end of the night I made it to the mark 9pm. Didn’t finish. My toddler and mom cheered me on during the course of the day. I figured that’s a pretty good start. I haven’t done as much jumping. I don’t know if I even remember how to use a jump rope. My toddler 🙄 , with the can do attitude “you can do it mommy” 😩just what I needed my own personal cheerleader🥺. I only got three jumps in😆🎉. I will try to get more jumps in today.

Yeah, Dee has started her fitness journey. I don’t know what the heck I’m doing but I figured I’d start somewhere. I have a partner whom I’ll be checking in daily as well as my toddler to keep me on my toes. I haven’t weighed in I really don’t want to feel pressured by it I have an idea of what that number is and will use that as a mental note.

Why now? I’d say why not. Covid gains are obvious and this is something that I’ve started and stopped over the period of lock down. I’m hoping eventually little habits like eating snacks,sweets will stop. I don’t want to go on a full diet cleanse in one go. I want to take it one step at a time until that taste or yearning is gone.

Dee is embarking on a fitness journey. I want to document as much as I can and I’m excited to see results. For now I really want to get to a healthier weight be fit and stick to it. Trying to avoid any ailment that comes with neglecting ones health at least the ones I can avoid.

No pictures yet, they’re coming.

It’s good to check in with you guys I hope you’re all safe.

Until next time,

Dee
Xoxo

Coping in a Pandemic

Hey friends,

It’s been a minute. Working from home paired with other demands has me very busy. I decided to check the many notifications that I’ve missed since my last post.

The blog is growing and people are engaging with the posts I’ve made and that is good. Thank you really, it’s much appreciated.

Today wasn’t a good day for me, I was so overwhelmed I locked myself in my room, I guess I cried 😭 for maybe a few hours. Now I don’t know what came over me but I felt so much better after. I was thinking unkind thoughts ,between work home the current pandemic the news. It was just too much.

Check on your strong friends we are not okay. I was a part of a meeting this week where a team member shared how people are not coping in this pandemic our realities have changed we’ve lost loved ones, jobs, the uncertainty of not knowing what will happen next is just too much. When I heard this person speak I didn’t know or think that for a minute I was going through the motions. No one checked on me but a notification from this blog post that I wrote last year prompted me to reflect and refocus my bearings.

I just want you to reach out to someone if you need to talk clear your head. Ask for help, too often we allow pride from giving us that break that is so badly needed.

I’m not at a 100% but I’m still alive.

I hope you are okay, alive and well.

Until next post,

Stay safe

Dee xoxo

One Year Later – Covid-19 Experience

It’s one year later since Covid-19 graced our shores. A year ago today we had our first case, twenty eight thousand cases and counting over five hundred deaths later. Covid-19 has ruined a lot of lives. People who depended on Tourism was first affected, with little or no travellers to support them. The government gave grants but that money could only cover a week’s meal. People had to get creative, challenge the status quo. Covid-19 was bad but it birthed an appreciation for a level of creativity I’ve never seen before, it challenged people to think outside of the box or even made them throw away the box all together.

One year later though some people may not have the same jobs are living differently it has allowed people to reflect. I too have been affected my this virus, thankfully I remain negative however when you’re used to spending time with family and friends taking different adventures every other weekend not limited to a 8pm curfew; that sucks but I’m still alive and very thankful.

During the pandemic I got so bored being at home that I started doubting myself. I however after much thought created this blog as an outlet to share my thoughts. Surprisingly when I started writing I didn’t expect that there would be so many people all over the world ,would support me. The interactions grew and friends of deetheory was born. My self doubt birthed a new passion of sharing, believing that someone out there wants to hear what I think and that is just awesome.

Covid-19 has not only been bad it has made people more conscious about their health. It’s rather fascinating that I haven’t caught the common cold since I’ve started paying attention to everything I come in contact with. Visits to the doctor were for different ailments outside of my control.

For everyone who has lost someone to this deadly virus, sincerest condolences. If you are still trying to put a grasp on all that has happened and still trying to navigate your life whole strain you have made it this far and that’s something to be grateful for.

The vaccine has graced our shores and I can’t wait to take it. I know things have changed but this is the only chance to get to some form of normalcy. It won’t be business as usual but it will limit the need for certain restrictions.

What has been your experience? One year later how has Covid-19 treated you?

Let’s chat…

Until next post…

Dee