Relationships aren’t One size fits All -#Blogmas Day 19

Social media is fun and “all men are trash”.

That’s not always the case. Social Media is not always fun and not all men are trash.

Relationships on Social Media are not perfect. Yes, they’re couples that you love seeing on your timeline and you feel a sense of attachment to. No couple that shares snippets of their “glowing” life the “couples goals” isn’t real. Those couples experience similar heartache that the ordinary person does. They’re just more open and better at putting together the experience to get you emotionally invested in their daily lives. This my friend is not healthy. Take these relationships with a grain of salt. Every other week there is one celebrity who is getting divorced and or breaking up.

” Relationships aren’t a one size fits all”.

Your relationship is unique to you. What works for your relationship may not work for mine. Also, people only share good things online; you have no idea what people are truly going through behind the scenes. It’s ok to cheer on the relationship but the moment you get invested that it affects you personally and your outlook on life, comparing your relationship to them; you need to take a step back.

Be deliberate with your relationships. If there is something that you feel that you can do to make it better talk to your partner but don’t hold the standards of your favorite celebrity couple against your partner who is truly trying. Newsflash maybe what you’re trying to do is just not for you. That’s okay, figure out what is and be happy with that.

Create your own life, his reality and their reality are two different worlds. Something like finances, for example, A joint account is not the answer to everything. The key is to have proper money management. Who is better at managing the finances in the relationship? That’s the person who should be responsible for that task. Have monthly check-ins just for transparency. If you need help with managing your finances here are Ten (10) Budgeting Tips to help you in your relationship.

Until next time

Dee

Letting Go – (Blogmas Day 18)

I’ve mentioned my friend Sally* before, we were having a conversation today over coffee. It was good to see her. It’s almost midnight and I’ve realized that I haven’t made a post entry. We’ve got to figure out a blogging schedule going forward.

Letting Go- You will not heal until you’ve let go of what broke you; say that again. Those words came up in our conversation and I thought they were very profound.

Letting Go

Do you find it hard to find closure after a bad break up? Do you still feel that you need to give them a second chance because it was “your” fault why that thing happened and if you just gave them another shot things will get better? Do you still find it hard to hold onto that friendship because you grew up in the same neighborhood went to the same middle school? It could be your job, friendship, relationship whatever it is until you let go and rid yourself of the hurt you will not find peace.

2021 is a few weeks away. Start over, find the peace that you truly deserve. Your happiness means more than anything else. Take that leap and let Let Go, you’d be better off for it.Let Go…

Just saw the beautiful woman on Twitter share how she has left her boyfriend of 8 years ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿฟ๐Ÿ‘ @matthewstam1. I hope they’re other brave men and women like her who chose peace and happiness first. Let Go….

Until Next Post

Dee

Six (6) Tips for a Productive Online Meeting

Work From Home started for most persons around March of this year. People have to get accustomed to this new norm of doing things Online. While I like somethings that are done online, I’m still trying to maneuver my way around online meetings. I’m not a very techy person I can help myself and I believe that there’s no problem that a Google search can’t fix.

Today, I had a very important meeting online and while most of my meetings have been via this medium I’m still trying to understand my way around things. It’s no longer sending a calendar invite to meet at a conference room or restaurant but it’s now let’s meet via Zoom or Microsoft Teams. It all boils down to preference and the platform that the organizer chooses.

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This is not my first stint with virtual meetings but today I had several glitches I believe going forward can be alleviated.

Here are some lessons that I learnt:

  1. Do a test run – Dont take it for granted that things will run smoothly. Several factors can influence how your meeting proceeds. Is your internet steady? Is your device that you’re going to connect with compatible with the platform the organizer chooses? A test run with someone using the link provided can make things a 100% better.
  2. Have your material ready: It’s important that you have the information that you’ll be presenting on in one area. Create a folder with the material also have a backup copy of your presentation just in case.
  3. Housekeeping: Face to Face they’re certain things that you’re not keen on doing but its sadly being done on a virtual platform. Before the start of your meeting ensure that its communicated across the board how the meeting will proceed – using the raise hand feature, muting their mics when they’re not on speaking to the group, utilizing the chat room instead of interrupting the speaker.
  4. Get Help: You’re not a robot. Its ok to ask for help. Make contact with It ahead of your meeting to go through any cliches that you may experience. You can also have someone monitor the chat while the meeting is going on, as well as, admiting persons into the meeting. Trust me, things will be ran more smoothly.
  5. Meeting Location: Most people have been home from early March. Working from home does have its perks as well as challenges. For a busy mom with child/ren , this could be a challenge. Your location for your meeting while you figure out your home situation is very important. If you’re not fortunate to have a home office I’d suggest your bedroom or living area. All you’ll need is a desk /iron board to rest your laptop, or tablet on facing a blank wall or curtains for backdrop. Sending your kids , pets outside or their rooms while your meeting is going on can make a world of a difference. Not everyone is as understanding as some when they hear your needy toddler asking for something.
  6. Record your meetings – All protocols observed. Do record your meetings just for reviewing and information purposes only. There are always lessons to be learnt from these proceedings.

How do you manage your virtual sessions? Which platform is your favourite? Do you have any other tips for conducting online meetings?

Let’s Chat.

Until Next Post

Dee…

Catch up on my last post Blogmas Day 16

Live your life…

I don’t think we truly ever really grasp the phrase “live your life”… It’s 1:31 am just got up because I felt thirsty. I pick up my phone and decided to browse until I feel sleepy again. I go unto Twitter and before I could scroll to the end all I could see were people saying condolences, I can’t believe this , what about his wife and baby. Curiosity got the best of me and I did a quick search to find out that, one of the persons I interacted with on social media drowned today.

Shock, disbelief, and all the emotions you feel when you hear of death has triggered me. Now I’m up in bed thinking that this person I’ve never met is gone and his wife and 2 year old is without a husband and father. This man who would often take time out of his busy schedule to share with his many followers what you needed to know in the creative industry topped off with daily musings of his adorable daughter.

Not often am I triggered by the death of someone I have never met, but I’m left to think about how he often shared that we should live our lives to the fullest and not wait for tomorrow as it’s promised to no one. Whatever it is that you’re (myself included) thinking of doing to make your life worthwhile you should do it. Stop wasting time thinking about what-ifs, go out, and do that damn thing.

You see this man when he was 20 years old had this amazing idea that would change how people would engage in the creative industry, he met upon naysayers but that never stopped him from living his truest potential. He made it big by the age of 25. He’s now 34 years old. So young, still have so much to do and he never wasted any time listening to people who thought his dreams weren’t valid.

You only have one life, one you, so start somewhere do something. What will be your legacy? Don’t let people or your loved ones say “you know he/she wanted to do this but never got to or was too afraid to start”. Let the people we leave behind be comforted by the fact you did the unthinkable, you went after what you believed in and you were able to leave a mark.

Live your life, don’t wait until tomorrow, I know how scary the thought of doing something you’ve always wanted to do is but you have to just start. Do the thing that makes you scared. It’s ok if you fail but don’t stop and allow the negative to hold you back. Get up and brush yourself off and start again.

Lastly, in living your life hug the people that matter. Cherish your loved ones, don’t take for granted the people that matter. Especially in this time where most people are not able to visit, make that call you’ll be happy you did.

If you’ve read to the end of my ramblings, Thank you ๐Ÿ˜Š, I appreciate it. Live your life….

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Until next Post…

Dee

When it Rains…

It’s raining where I am. The sounds of the raindrops is very soothing to the ear. Its as if each droplet is in a rush to see who’s going to catch the ground first. I laugh because I’ve never thought of that before.

I love the rain, especially now that I’m snuggled up in my room with this book ๐Ÿ“–. We’ve already had dinner; shrimp pasta and garlic bread, yummy!.

I can hear the sounds of frogs and crickets moving about. They’ve been displayed by the rain. Trying to find somewhere warm and safe.

When it rains I reflect more. I think about the present, the future and all the amazing things that I want to achieve. Its important to never take anything for granted. You are enough, you are important and you can be the change you want in this world.

Talking about the change I’m not certain if you’re aware of what’s happening in Nigeria ๐Ÿ‡ณ๐Ÿ‡ฌ What is SARS?. I’m saddened by all the persons who are being killed for standing up for what they believe in. Let’s pause and say a prayer hoping that things will change soon. #PrayforNigeria #EndSARs

Give thanks that you’re in a better space and never take anything for granted.

As always, I hope you’re Ok and safe๐Ÿ˜Š.

Until next post…..

Dee