Vision Boarding – Do they really work?

I’ve always been skeptical about vision boards. They’re a lot of seminars surrounding vision boards being advertised heavily on my timeline. Virtual sessions are where it’s at these days. Have you ever used a vision board? Do you believe that it works? Is it just another ploy developed by “self-help ” gurus” just to make another buck?

What is a Vision Board?

A vision board is a visual representation of your goals. A vision board is a tool used to help clarify, concentrate and maintain focus on what truly matters to you.

Does vision boarding help people?

Short answer YES. If the definition is true I’ve been vision boarding all my life. In 2018 I’ve seen many changes in my life. This has everything to do with being intentional with everything I wanted to achieve.

My vision board had the following:

Promotion: I got promoted 6 months into my job.

New Car – I had the model, make etc down. I knew exactly which car I wanted and I got it.

New Apartment :

I was able to move into a new apartment. We saw the ad in the paper, made the call to set up a viewing. We were the first and only viewers to see the apartment.

They’re many other achievements over the past two years.

If you want to achieve any particular goal it’s best to write it down, be very specific. You also want to ensure that your goal is realistic. Set a timeline. It’s perfectly fine to change deadlines. Writing down the goal acts as a motivator as well as boost your confidence level. It’s a wonderful feeling seeing the things you write down on paper manifest before your eyes.

Vision Boarding is fun , make it practical. They’re lots of videos and resources out there to assist you with making one.

Give it a try. You’ll need the following to get started:

-Board/Paper

– Newspaper and or Magazine Clippings

– Pens, Markers

-Glue ( glitter and regular)

– Stickers

Get Creative and have fun while doing it. This is a fun activity to catch up with your girlfriends/ Book Club bodies. Go Virtual make an event out of it.

Vision Board Supplies

Vision Boarding works for me and has been working for a long time.

Until Next Post,

Dee

20 Lessons- 2020 My Year in Review

2020 has been a rollercoaster year. It was pretty challenging, to say the least, and if I’m being honest I’d say that I’m extremely proud of how resilient I’ve become.

Here are a few things that I learnt in 2020 :

1. You can Do anything You want – I’ve developed this Can Do attitude over the months in  2020, no longer am I shying away from tasks but I’m taking each challenge as we go along. I’ve learnt to do so much in this pandemic. One thing I’ve learnt was that of my nails. I’m enjoying doing my nails at home. I’ve saved a lot and I plan on continuing.

2. Asking for Help – It’s okay to ask for help. It doesn’t mean you’re weak but this proves that while you Can there’s someone out there who can give that added push that you’ll always need.

3. Family is Everything: This pandemic forced a lot of people to find out who their family was. People can now see who they’re married to what kind of children did they bring into the world etc, This pandemic allowed me time to learn certain nuisances about my partner as well as showed me that family is important.

4. I’m not a Patient person: Teachers deserve all the salary that they ask for and then some. I hated zoom classes, yes there were good days but the tedious operation of the zoom classes was just too much. The teachers who conducted the classes have the level of patience that I can only dream of achieving.

5. Being A Stay at Home mom is not something I’d ever want to do. I lift my hats off to every stay at home mom out there. You all are super heroes. The many nuisances that happens with being a stay at home mom I am not built for. Give me the briefcase I’ll bring home the bacon. The tasks are too tedious and cumbersome.

6. It’s Ok to say No. No is not a bad word. Saying No without further elaborations is good.

7. You Need an Outlet – This in the form of friends, a blog, and or a diary. Your mental health is very important and you have to take care of yourself. It’s always good to share with your friends about a problem that you’re having. Built-up anger and all sort of emotions can eat away at your well being.

8. There is no I in Team. I’ve hated working in groups since college. Working in teams has been a challenge and through the year I’ve realized that the saying “The Chain is as strong as it’s the weakest link ” is true.

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9. Rest: Rest is very important. Getting 8 hours of sleep does wonders for your body and mental state.

10. Exercise: It’s important to keep active. I haven’t been as active over the months and I’m paying for it. I took for granted moving about climbing stairs or walking to get something at the store for granted. I’ve changed this and going into the new year I want to commit at least 30 minutes a day to some form of exercise.

Rest

11. Saving: I’ve saved a lot and from that habit of saving I was able to take myself out of a few gutters. Thankfully we’ve made it to the 30th day of December. Bill collectors aren’t knocking at my door. It’s important to have a proper budget. See my tips here.

12. Spending time with family and Friends: It took the lockdown to make me realize how much I needed a break just to relax and destress. Take the time you need to relax.

13. Reading: I saw someone share on social media how many books they’ve read in 2019 and I was impressed because that person had a busy schedule ,mom and business and found the time to read. I took the challenge, gave myself 5 books to read. I checked today on GoodReads I have read a total of 15 books in 2020. Reading gives a different perspective on life. It’s also fun.

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16. Treat Yourself: You’ve worked hard accomplished a few goals it’s okay to treat yourself to something that you’ve always wanted. It will do you the world of good.

17. Birthdays: Birthdays are very important. This is your day and your day only. Make it special for you. Don’t wait on someone to make it special for you.

18. Work : I love work. At least I have a love hate relationship for work 😆. Who else gets to work from home and calls their boss to let them know that you want to come in an extra day. I love work, I love what I do.

19. I’m Spoilt: I knew this all along 😆. I’m very picky about everything and I’m easily annoyed. I know what I want and if you can’t give it ,I get it myself.

20. It’s Ok to Start Over: Things happened in 2020 that has made me realize that life is not perfect. I’m in control of my destiny. I can always rip the page out start a new chapter and move forward. Yes, human nature will make you feel disappointed but instead of holding onto that feeling give thanks for the experience and the lessons learned. Chances are you’ll never make the same mistakes again. Always have a positive outlook on things.

How was your 2020?

What stood out for you?

Did you learn anything new?

Until Next Post,

Dee

Relationships aren’t One size fits All -#Blogmas Day 19

Social media is fun and “all men are trash”.

That’s not always the case. Social Media is not always fun and not all men are trash.

Relationships on Social Media are not perfect. Yes, they’re couples that you love seeing on your timeline and you feel a sense of attachment to. No couple that shares snippets of their “glowing” life the “couples goals” isn’t real. Those couples experience similar heartache that the ordinary person does. They’re just more open and better at putting together the experience to get you emotionally invested in their daily lives. This my friend is not healthy. Take these relationships with a grain of salt. Every other week there is one celebrity who is getting divorced and or breaking up.

” Relationships aren’t a one size fits all”.

Your relationship is unique to you. What works for your relationship may not work for mine. Also, people only share good things online; you have no idea what people are truly going through behind the scenes. It’s ok to cheer on the relationship but the moment you get invested that it affects you personally and your outlook on life, comparing your relationship to them; you need to take a step back.

Be deliberate with your relationships. If there is something that you feel that you can do to make it better talk to your partner but don’t hold the standards of your favorite celebrity couple against your partner who is truly trying. Newsflash maybe what you’re trying to do is just not for you. That’s okay, figure out what is and be happy with that.

Create your own life, his reality and their reality are two different worlds. Something like finances, for example, A joint account is not the answer to everything. The key is to have proper money management. Who is better at managing the finances in the relationship? That’s the person who should be responsible for that task. Have monthly check-ins just for transparency. If you need help with managing your finances here are Ten (10) Budgeting Tips to help you in your relationship.

Until next time

Dee

Letting Go – (Blogmas Day 18)

I’ve mentioned my friend Sally* before, we were having a conversation today over coffee. It was good to see her. It’s almost midnight and I’ve realized that I haven’t made a post entry. We’ve got to figure out a blogging schedule going forward.

Letting Go- You will not heal until you’ve let go of what broke you; say that again. Those words came up in our conversation and I thought they were very profound.

Letting Go

Do you find it hard to find closure after a bad break up? Do you still feel that you need to give them a second chance because it was “your” fault why that thing happened and if you just gave them another shot things will get better? Do you still find it hard to hold onto that friendship because you grew up in the same neighborhood went to the same middle school? It could be your job, friendship, relationship whatever it is until you let go and rid yourself of the hurt you will not find peace.

2021 is a few weeks away. Start over, find the peace that you truly deserve. Your happiness means more than anything else. Take that leap and let Let Go, you’d be better off for it.Let Go…

Just saw the beautiful woman on Twitter share how she has left her boyfriend of 8 years 🙌🏿👏 @matthewstam1. I hope they’re other brave men and women like her who chose peace and happiness first. Let Go….

Until Next Post

Dee

Six (6) Tips for a Productive Online Meeting

Work From Home started for most persons around March of this year. People have to get accustomed to this new norm of doing things Online. While I like somethings that are done online, I’m still trying to maneuver my way around online meetings. I’m not a very techy person I can help myself and I believe that there’s no problem that a Google search can’t fix.

Today, I had a very important meeting online and while most of my meetings have been via this medium I’m still trying to understand my way around things. It’s no longer sending a calendar invite to meet at a conference room or restaurant but it’s now let’s meet via Zoom or Microsoft Teams. It all boils down to preference and the platform that the organizer chooses.

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This is not my first stint with virtual meetings but today I had several glitches I believe going forward can be alleviated.

Here are some lessons that I learnt:

  1. Do a test run – Dont take it for granted that things will run smoothly. Several factors can influence how your meeting proceeds. Is your internet steady? Is your device that you’re going to connect with compatible with the platform the organizer chooses? A test run with someone using the link provided can make things a 100% better.
  2. Have your material ready: It’s important that you have the information that you’ll be presenting on in one area. Create a folder with the material also have a backup copy of your presentation just in case.
  3. Housekeeping: Face to Face they’re certain things that you’re not keen on doing but its sadly being done on a virtual platform. Before the start of your meeting ensure that its communicated across the board how the meeting will proceed – using the raise hand feature, muting their mics when they’re not on speaking to the group, utilizing the chat room instead of interrupting the speaker.
  4. Get Help: You’re not a robot. Its ok to ask for help. Make contact with It ahead of your meeting to go through any cliches that you may experience. You can also have someone monitor the chat while the meeting is going on, as well as, admiting persons into the meeting. Trust me, things will be ran more smoothly.
  5. Meeting Location: Most people have been home from early March. Working from home does have its perks as well as challenges. For a busy mom with child/ren , this could be a challenge. Your location for your meeting while you figure out your home situation is very important. If you’re not fortunate to have a home office I’d suggest your bedroom or living area. All you’ll need is a desk /iron board to rest your laptop, or tablet on facing a blank wall or curtains for backdrop. Sending your kids , pets outside or their rooms while your meeting is going on can make a world of a difference. Not everyone is as understanding as some when they hear your needy toddler asking for something.
  6. Record your meetings – All protocols observed. Do record your meetings just for reviewing and information purposes only. There are always lessons to be learnt from these proceedings.

How do you manage your virtual sessions? Which platform is your favourite? Do you have any other tips for conducting online meetings?

Let’s Chat.

Until Next Post

Dee…

Catch up on my last post Blogmas Day 16