Speak Up

Silence isn’t always golden. This is a phrase I shared in 2011 on my Facebook page.

Silence- complete absence of sound (noun) google definition.

I was never one who always spoke up for myself for failure to get on someone’s bad side. All this changed after I’ve realized Silence isn’t always golden. Speaking up allows the other person to know how you’re feeling, whether you’re in agreement or not. It’s important to share your feelings without fear of the outcome.

I’ve been reading books, listening to podcasts talking to people who are very unapologetic about who they are and what they bring to the table. If you’re at a job and you have all the ideas that would make a process work and you don’t say anything, that is to your detriment. How many times have you missed an opportunity to share ideas and even get ahead in life? What has your silence done for you?

After reading the book The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F$@k – Mark Manson it has further cemented me to speak up or focus more directly on what makes me happy. Putting yourself first allows you to strive, to grow and achieve things that you’ve always wanted to achieve.

Whatever you do or say always focus on the bottom line YOU. Ensure that all your encounters leaves you satisfied with your response to any situation. It doesn’t happen over night it takes practice and drive. Never miss another opportunity to shine because you remained silent.

Silence isn’t always golden.

Until next post….

Dee

I Drank A Gallon Water for 1 month….

Hey Friends 👋,

Being home everyday, cooking, eating, taking care of family and doing everything except taking care of my body. Things got out of hand, I didn’t realize the person I was seeing in the mirror. It was awful 😢😞😫, I felt tired all the time and eating around the clock didn’t help either. I packed on lbs like no tomorrow. I decided that I needed to take control not gain any more lbs and just focus on losing all the 50 lbs gained in the year.

50? When did I gain 60lbs? 😔 I can’t believe I allowed myself to get away like that. For reference my weight before Covid was 198lbs still 23 lbs more that my ideal weight of 175lbs. I am 30-35 years old 5ft 8 1/4″.

The most important thing I would ask anyone who has found themselves in my situation is to find your why. Finding your why is what will keep you focused and driven to accomplish that goal you want. My why is that I want to love the person that I see in the mirror at all times. I want to be able to wear my size 12 jeans now I’m rocking size 16/18. That’s not me. The only thing that I never seemed to lose was my curvy figure, that I am extremely grateful for.

At the end of June this year I decided that I had to figure out a way to lose the weight without much exercise and pressure that would send me back to physio. I got a jump rope and Gallon bottle from Amazon.

Day 1:

I only managed to do 3 complete jumps. Yes I was so heavy I couldn’t lift my body to complete at least 10 jumps. When I was younger I loved jumping, I had my jump rope everywhere I went. I parked the rope and decided to just focus on something else, let’s lose some of this weight first. I started drinking a Gallon of water daily.

The first week was hectic 😫. I was running to the bathroom every 20 mins, reminded me of when I was pregnant. Thankfully I am home most of the days so it didn’t bother me much. At the end of week one I already started seeing and feeling results. My skin was glowing and I didn’t feel as tired before.

Fast forward to today, I can testify to the following benefits of drinking a Gallon water daily:

* Skin texture will be different.

* Bloating completely gone.

* Curved Cravings

* Shorter periods ,little to no pms: I have a pretty normal cycle, however before I see my monthly flow I’d experience excruciating pain lower belly and back, I would get pimples on a specific spot on my face. My mood swings would be all over the place. This month I thought I wasn’t going to have a period no back pain no cramps, the flow was not heavy. It only lasted 3 days. My cycle is usually 5 days and is always on time.

I did some measurements before I started my journey:

Waist- 44″

Breast – 42″

Thigh – 51″

August 1,2021:

Waist – 39″

Breast -40″

Thigh- 49″

This is just from drinking a Gallon water daily. My diet haven’t changed much just that I am eating less and no longer eating late.

I am going to challenge myself to start jump roping and using my spin bike. Hopefully the results will be much better.

What has been your experience with exercise,losing Covid weight?

Share with me in the comments .

Until Next Time…

Dee

My Fitness Journey

You have to be intentional, at least that’s what I’m telling myself. It all came up through an online meeting I had with my team. Work colleague of mine said she needed someone to workout with; asked if I would be her accountability partner and like the supportive person I am, I accepted. I told her, that I had a few gears I had ordered on Amazon until they’re here we wouldn’t start maybe light stuff.

The items got here yesterday (6/30) well part of my order. A jump rope and a Gallon water bottle. The one with the motivational prompts. I figured if I’m going to do this I needed the push.

Gal. Water Bottle and Skipping rope

Day 1.

I started drinking water later than expected however by the end of the night I made it to the mark 9pm. Didn’t finish. My toddler and mom cheered me on during the course of the day. I figured that’s a pretty good start. I haven’t done as much jumping. I don’t know if I even remember how to use a jump rope. My toddler 🙄 , with the can do attitude “you can do it mommy” 😩just what I needed my own personal cheerleader🥺. I only got three jumps in😆🎉. I will try to get more jumps in today.

Yeah, Dee has started her fitness journey. I don’t know what the heck I’m doing but I figured I’d start somewhere. I have a partner whom I’ll be checking in daily as well as my toddler to keep me on my toes. I haven’t weighed in I really don’t want to feel pressured by it I have an idea of what that number is and will use that as a mental note.

Why now? I’d say why not. Covid gains are obvious and this is something that I’ve started and stopped over the period of lock down. I’m hoping eventually little habits like eating snacks,sweets will stop. I don’t want to go on a full diet cleanse in one go. I want to take it one step at a time until that taste or yearning is gone.

Dee is embarking on a fitness journey. I want to document as much as I can and I’m excited to see results. For now I really want to get to a healthier weight be fit and stick to it. Trying to avoid any ailment that comes with neglecting ones health at least the ones I can avoid.

No pictures yet, they’re coming.

It’s good to check in with you guys I hope you’re all safe.

Until next time,

Dee
Xoxo

Buy your own roses and chocolate on Valentines Day

Love, that four letter word that means different things to different people. For me, love is a verb; Valentine’s Day is not just for couples it may have been marketed and commercialized as such and some may find themselves more lonely than ever if they’re no significant other to send you roses and or chocolate.

Get your own roses and chocolate. No it’s not pathetic or conceited. Before you can love anyone else you have to first love you. It’s perfectly fine to treat yourself how you want to be treated eventually if Mr or Mrs Right were to come along.

Virtual Party: Call the girlfriends and have that kareoke party sing your hearts out and just have fun. It’s better than sitting at home feeling lonely and or sorry for yourself.

Send Gifts : If you have a favorite charity why not send a love token. You can also send a love gift to a children’s home or the Cancer ward at St. Jude’s. Whatever you can put a smile on someone’s face it will make you feel better.

Self Care: A quiet evening at home,music ,wine and or your favorite movie snuggle up and relax. Give yourself a Mani and pedi self care is the best form of I love you. Gents don’t feel left out get yourself that PS5 , golf clubs that Car whatever it is that you want and able to afford. Spoil yourself. You are your first priority.

Don’t let coupled up social media make you feel less than. I’ve been doing the buying myself a gift from I was single.

Happy Valentine’s Day !

Until Next Post,

Dee

3 Self-Help Tips you need in 2021

It’s the 4th day of 2021. We’ve talked about Vision Boarding and how they’ve helped me to visualize my life over the years. Today I want to share three (3) self-help tips that you will need to visualize your dreams in 2021.

Here are a few tips to help you to create and attract the life you want:

1.Make yourself a priority:Stay in bed all day,painting your nails, doing make up, watching Youtube videos, or simple doing nothing at all. Focus on you and your mental being. Taking care of yourself is paramount. Once you’re energized and motivated you will be motivated to achieve all your goals.

2.Decluttering: Your mental health is very important. If it doesn’t bring you joy let it go. Cutting ties with everything that consistently hurts you as well as being prepared to cut off that part of you that allows that kind of hurt. You are well on your way to realizing your dreams. A freeing spirit allows you to excel and believe that you can achieve anything.

3.Create Boundaries: In 2021 we want everyone to know that although we love them we can do so from a distance. Creating boundaries allows you to breathe. It’s ok to say no, to that request. In 2021 let’s say no without giving unnecessary explanations as to why we’re saying no. Explanations open room for the other party to play on your emotions which will make you end up saying yes to something you truly didn’t want to in the first place.

I hope these tips will provide clarity, and you will achieve everything you’ve set out to for 2021 and beyond.

Until Next Post,

Dee

Vision Boarding – Do they really work?

I’ve always been skeptical about vision boards. They’re a lot of seminars surrounding vision boards being advertised heavily on my timeline. Virtual sessions are where it’s at these days. Have you ever used a vision board? Do you believe that it works? Is it just another ploy developed by “self-help ” gurus” just to make another buck?

What is a Vision Board?

A vision board is a visual representation of your goals. A vision board is a tool used to help clarify, concentrate and maintain focus on what truly matters to you.

Does vision boarding help people?

Short answer YES. If the definition is true I’ve been vision boarding all my life. In 2018 I’ve seen many changes in my life. This has everything to do with being intentional with everything I wanted to achieve.

My vision board had the following:

Promotion: I got promoted 6 months into my job.

New Car – I had the model, make etc down. I knew exactly which car I wanted and I got it.

New Apartment :

I was able to move into a new apartment. We saw the ad in the paper, made the call to set up a viewing. We were the first and only viewers to see the apartment.

They’re many other achievements over the past two years.

If you want to achieve any particular goal it’s best to write it down, be very specific. You also want to ensure that your goal is realistic. Set a timeline. It’s perfectly fine to change deadlines. Writing down the goal acts as a motivator as well as boost your confidence level. It’s a wonderful feeling seeing the things you write down on paper manifest before your eyes.

Vision Boarding is fun , make it practical. They’re lots of videos and resources out there to assist you with making one.

Give it a try. You’ll need the following to get started:

-Board/Paper

– Newspaper and or Magazine Clippings

– Pens, Markers

-Glue ( glitter and regular)

– Stickers

Get Creative and have fun while doing it. This is a fun activity to catch up with your girlfriends/ Book Club bodies. Go Virtual make an event out of it.

Vision Board Supplies

Vision Boarding works for me and has been working for a long time.

Until Next Post,

Dee