Get out of your Comfort Zone

Hello Friends,

Mandatory Work from Home is over and we are all back at work. That’s just one of the many things that has been happening since I last touch base with you guys.

I also have some good news that I would like to share. I am back at school. I haven’t been back in the classroom since I completed my first degree some 12 years ago. It’s fully online and has a flexible arrangement that caters to busy work moms like myself. I’ve complted one class since module 1 started. They’re six (6) modules. The class sessions have been engaging and I am learning so much that will help me with my work.

It has been almost two (2) years since I’ve been home. This mandate of going back to the office will have me doing a complete mind change and adjustment. The morning traffic, arranging activities for my son and everything else. Personally I feel I get much more work done when I am home and I am given a more flexi work arrangement.

Covid-19 is still around everyday there is a new update from the CDC. We still have to be very careful because a cure has not yet been found. Are you guys seeing what’s happening in the world right now, the war between Russia and UkraineRussia Ukraine Updates. I have been reading the blogs, watching the tweets and seeing the news and its horrifying. My heart goes out to all those who are affected by it.

In life you will have time when your comfort zone is disrupted however, it is for us to regroup and refocus. Change is not always a bad thing. Figure out what works and make things happen for you. Take charge of the situation if you can, instead of sitting and complaining make something of it. I may have to readjust my work schedule but I am looking on the bright side – I can focus on keeping a more active life. Going back to work full time allows me create new opportunies. Keeping a positive mindset and eventually positive outcomes will happen.

Have you life ever been disrupted because of a situation? How did you handle it?

Share with me in the comments.

Until next post….

Dee xoxo

Speak Up

Silence isn’t always golden. This is a phrase I shared in 2011 on my Facebook page.

Silence- complete absence of sound (noun) google definition.

I was never one who always spoke up for myself for failure to get on someone’s bad side. All this changed after I’ve realized Silence isn’t always golden. Speaking up allows the other person to know how you’re feeling, whether you’re in agreement or not. It’s important to share your feelings without fear of the outcome.

I’ve been reading books, listening to podcasts talking to people who are very unapologetic about who they are and what they bring to the table. If you’re at a job and you have all the ideas that would make a process work and you don’t say anything, that is to your detriment. How many times have you missed an opportunity to share ideas and even get ahead in life? What has your silence done for you?

After reading the book The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F$@k – Mark Manson it has further cemented me to speak up or focus more directly on what makes me happy. Putting yourself first allows you to strive, to grow and achieve things that you’ve always wanted to achieve.

Whatever you do or say always focus on the bottom line YOU. Ensure that all your encounters leaves you satisfied with your response to any situation. It doesn’t happen over night it takes practice and drive. Never miss another opportunity to shine because you remained silent.

Silence isn’t always golden.

Until next post….

Dee

In my Cocoon…

I’ve always thought if I played it safe, followed the rules I’d get ahead in life. I wouldn’t be stuck, I wouldn’t feel trapped. I was wrong, I’ve been wrong. That’s not how the real world works.

Yes rules are there for a reason and like everything else if you break the rules you have to face the consequences. To me it feels that I’ve been following the rules and watching the rule breakers soar ahead.

Have you ever had that thought? I have, I’m having it now as I pour my self into this piece. This is not something I’m hearing from a girlfriend whose venting. This is me feeling all these emotions. I’ve worked proved myself and gotten sidelined over and over again. We have this saying ” A Cat and A Dog doesn’t have the same luck” . Ever since I’ve heard that saying I’ve been playing it safe with everything in my life.

I’m not saying that I’m about to go rob a bank. No, I’m thinking that it’s time to take a stand ,whose to say things will end badly? I mean this feeling and these words have been holding me back and like the butterfly it’s time I break out of that cocoon and soar.

It’s scary, it’s nerve-wracking but I will be better off. Safe feels good, being cautious is ok but nothing fun happens there. The people who makes it big didn’t play it safe. Can you imagine Oprah Winfrey playing it safe after being fired? Or Michelle Obama?

As I write , they’re two things I have to do before I close out 2021 and I know once I’ve unlocked that part of my life, nothing I mean nothing is going to hold me back. I have been holding me back. I’m the one who needs to get out of my head. Stop being an overthinker and think positive , I am and I can. Break free from my cocoon.

I’ve made the first step to recovery admitting fault, it’s invigorating and I feel like now I can take on everything. My mind, I’ve been holding me back, thinking I would fail or I will get in trouble.

Greatness is in me and greatness is in you. A friend of mine have been putting off going back to school because like me they’ve convinced themselves that they’re not good enough, I won’t make the qualifying exams to matriculation. Last night, she called me to view her results , she did the exams ,studied applied herself and in the hour of truth couldn’t bring herself to view the results. She called me ,very anxious, nerves all over the place- Dee ,girl what if I failed, it’s been 20 years, I don’t have anymore time, all the excuses you could think of.

I entered her details and when I saw the results ,I paused for a minute. She was still going on and on about how she doesn’t know what she’d do if she’d fail.

Telling her how smart and amazing she was and how proud I was of her calmed her down a bit. Congratulations 👏you’re going to University. Tears of joy, immediately she started speaking positively believing that after 20years she had fulfilled a childhood dream, go to University. Achieving all this especially in a pandemic with a chaotic family life. My friend has broken her cocoon and now she flies ….

Join us and breakfree from your cocoon. Let’s do this thing together.

Feel free, be free …

Until Next Post…

Dee

Dealing with Failure

It’s almost that time of the year when I look forward to Blogmas and all the other challenges out there. I also am closer to celebrating my blogversary. Almost 1 year ago I started this blog.

I’m back, I know I’ve been MIA for a hot minute. I took some well needed break and if I’m being honest I still feel that I could use a little more. However, I just wanted to touch base with all the persons who are keeping this blog alive , reading my posts ,liking and sharing it with family and friends. Thank you all.

I also want to say to the people who are struggling to hold on. Its not easy, I know. I have been going to school and trying to do the things that I have ignored to do because of PTSD. One of the worst feelings ever is learning that I have failed something. I’m not perfect and yes, like everyone else you would have learned something, that experience gives you the edge once you attempt it again. I know, however that initial feeling of not being good enough ,that feeling knowing you went in confident and you believed that you got something to only hear no, I’m sorry you have to do it over ,you missed a mark . It’s devastating. I’ve been dealing with this and while I’m getting the help I need it’s tough.

It’s OK. Your feelings are valid. Take every chance you get to heal and push forward. I am doing just that, it’s nerve-wracking, but I believe in you.

How do you deal with failure?

Until next time,

Dee

Coping in a Pandemic

Hey friends,

It’s been a minute. Working from home paired with other demands has me very busy. I decided to check the many notifications that I’ve missed since my last post.

The blog is growing and people are engaging with the posts I’ve made and that is good. Thank you really, it’s much appreciated.

Today wasn’t a good day for me, I was so overwhelmed I locked myself in my room, I guess I cried 😭 for maybe a few hours. Now I don’t know what came over me but I felt so much better after. I was thinking unkind thoughts ,between work home the current pandemic the news. It was just too much.

Check on your strong friends we are not okay. I was a part of a meeting this week where a team member shared how people are not coping in this pandemic our realities have changed we’ve lost loved ones, jobs, the uncertainty of not knowing what will happen next is just too much. When I heard this person speak I didn’t know or think that for a minute I was going through the motions. No one checked on me but a notification from this blog post that I wrote last year prompted me to reflect and refocus my bearings.

I just want you to reach out to someone if you need to talk clear your head. Ask for help, too often we allow pride from giving us that break that is so badly needed.

I’m not at a 100% but I’m still alive.

I hope you are okay, alive and well.

Until next post,

Stay safe

Dee xoxo

5 PodCasts to Listen Now

Podcasts are my favorite things to listen to these days. I am currently hooked on five in no particular order. Here’s why I think you should listen:

Oprah’s Supersoul Conversations: This podcast is narrated by Ophrah herself which if you are a fan or love listening to her you will understand and know that her voice is strong and very commanding. Her podcast is that pick me up that you want to hear first thing when you get up in the morning. This podcast allows you to tackle and answer life’s big problems and brings you closer to your best self. Listen here

Dead Ass with Khadeen and Devale Ellis: Love Sex Marriage raising kids. This podcast is very relatable it talks about the taboo things that people don’t talk about a lot. I love the relationship between the two and a married woman and mother I can relate to some of the problems that married couples face on a daily. In my head, they’re that married couple that you call to share concerns and just catch up with. Listen here

Redirection with Terri-Karelle: Have you always thought that your life would be a certain way, you set the plans, school, perfect job, perfect boyfriend/husband, kids, the house, and the car. Yet, life has a way of throwing you curveballs. You may get the perfect job but cant gets the perfect husband and vice versa. Redirection talks about rejection being that epiphany for you to unlock your truest potential. Things may never go as planned but how you tackle these changes will determine how you move forward. Terri’s guests are very engaging that you will be left realizing that you have what it takes to tackle the problems and live your truest potential giving you the confidence that is needed. Listen here

Tami Tackles Everything : as the name suggests Tami tackles everything, marriage, parenting and life. It’s refreshing to hear her take on the topics with the   different guests she host on each episode. The topics are relatable and they will give insights causing you to think about changing your mindset and attitude towards change.Tami is a fun listen bonusfor me is catching her  with famly on their Youtube Channel – Meet the Mitchells . Listen here

Girls Gotta Eat : My guilty pleasure. Ashley and Rayna are my BFFs in my head. I love this podcast. I started listening to podcasts in 2019 when I was travelling. Rayna and Ashley kept me occupied on those long flights. They are fun to listen to, I get the girl’s night out feeling whenever I listen, they talk about dating, sex and relationships raw unfiltered truth. I love it, I can binge all day. Listen here

Do you listen to Podcasts? Did I list any of your favorites? Comment your favorite Podcasts I am always looking for recommendations.

Until Next Post,

Dee