Speak Up

Silence isn’t always golden. This is a phrase I shared in 2011 on my Facebook page.

Silence- complete absence of sound (noun) google definition.

I was never one who always spoke up for myself for failure to get on someone’s bad side. All this changed after I’ve realized Silence isn’t always golden. Speaking up allows the other person to know how you’re feeling, whether you’re in agreement or not. It’s important to share your feelings without fear of the outcome.

I’ve been reading books, listening to podcasts talking to people who are very unapologetic about who they are and what they bring to the table. If you’re at a job and you have all the ideas that would make a process work and you don’t say anything, that is to your detriment. How many times have you missed an opportunity to share ideas and even get ahead in life? What has your silence done for you?

After reading the book The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F$@k – Mark Manson it has further cemented me to speak up or focus more directly on what makes me happy. Putting yourself first allows you to strive, to grow and achieve things that you’ve always wanted to achieve.

Whatever you do or say always focus on the bottom line YOU. Ensure that all your encounters leaves you satisfied with your response to any situation. It doesn’t happen over night it takes practice and drive. Never miss another opportunity to shine because you remained silent.

Silence isn’t always golden.

Until next post….

Dee

I tested positive

Almost one year ago I shared with you about my Exposure to Covid-19 . Today I come back after being cautious scared almost of catching this virus because I’ve seen and heard the horror stories with a Covid positive test result.

It took me a good ten minutes to fully register the results after I received the email. My sister was the first person I called to share the results. It seemed the universe was playing an awful joke at the time because she also tested positive at work. So two Covid positive test. This is not something I was looking forward to receiving.

The CDC gave some new guidelines regarding quarantine etc. The site where I tested also provided details in the event I needed medical attention.

The only symptom if any I’ve experienced since tested I’d say is a cough but I have allergies so of course it could have been mistaken as allergies, my allergies are chaotic at this time of the year. I’ve been in quarantine for almost 10 days and outside of the on and off cough I haven’t had any other symptoms thankfully.

I’ve been home most days before this result so to think I’ve been “ careful” wearing my mask washing my hands after being out in public. When im home pretty much no mask is worn. I can’t say how I contracted the virus or from whom. I’m vaccinated which I guess is good , no underlying issues that im aware of.

I figure I will wait until the quarantine is over to retest to find out if the virus is out of my system. I’ve read that the virus can remain in one’s system over 3 months I hope that isn’t the case. I will continue to wear my mask and being extra cautious when I’m around people. I would not want to be the cause of transmission to anyone.

Please continue to be careful out there guys so much is happening and you may just never know. Get tested if you are not well even if you may think it is your allergies.

Have a good rest of the day. I will provide an update on my status when I have one. I am in good spirits , drinking my fluids and trying to stay positive.

Until next time…

Dee

In my Cocoon…

I’ve always thought if I played it safe, followed the rules I’d get ahead in life. I wouldn’t be stuck, I wouldn’t feel trapped. I was wrong, I’ve been wrong. That’s not how the real world works.

Yes rules are there for a reason and like everything else if you break the rules you have to face the consequences. To me it feels that I’ve been following the rules and watching the rule breakers soar ahead.

Have you ever had that thought? I have, I’m having it now as I pour my self into this piece. This is not something I’m hearing from a girlfriend whose venting. This is me feeling all these emotions. I’ve worked proved myself and gotten sidelined over and over again. We have this saying ” A Cat and A Dog doesn’t have the same luck” . Ever since I’ve heard that saying I’ve been playing it safe with everything in my life.

I’m not saying that I’m about to go rob a bank. No, I’m thinking that it’s time to take a stand ,whose to say things will end badly? I mean this feeling and these words have been holding me back and like the butterfly it’s time I break out of that cocoon and soar.

It’s scary, it’s nerve-wracking but I will be better off. Safe feels good, being cautious is ok but nothing fun happens there. The people who makes it big didn’t play it safe. Can you imagine Oprah Winfrey playing it safe after being fired? Or Michelle Obama?

As I write , they’re two things I have to do before I close out 2021 and I know once I’ve unlocked that part of my life, nothing I mean nothing is going to hold me back. I have been holding me back. I’m the one who needs to get out of my head. Stop being an overthinker and think positive , I am and I can. Break free from my cocoon.

I’ve made the first step to recovery admitting fault, it’s invigorating and I feel like now I can take on everything. My mind, I’ve been holding me back, thinking I would fail or I will get in trouble.

Greatness is in me and greatness is in you. A friend of mine have been putting off going back to school because like me they’ve convinced themselves that they’re not good enough, I won’t make the qualifying exams to matriculation. Last night, she called me to view her results , she did the exams ,studied applied herself and in the hour of truth couldn’t bring herself to view the results. She called me ,very anxious, nerves all over the place- Dee ,girl what if I failed, it’s been 20 years, I don’t have anymore time, all the excuses you could think of.

I entered her details and when I saw the results ,I paused for a minute. She was still going on and on about how she doesn’t know what she’d do if she’d fail.

Telling her how smart and amazing she was and how proud I was of her calmed her down a bit. Congratulations 👏you’re going to University. Tears of joy, immediately she started speaking positively believing that after 20years she had fulfilled a childhood dream, go to University. Achieving all this especially in a pandemic with a chaotic family life. My friend has broken her cocoon and now she flies ….

Join us and breakfree from your cocoon. Let’s do this thing together.

Feel free, be free …

Until Next Post…

Dee

Coping in a Pandemic

Hey friends,

It’s been a minute. Working from home paired with other demands has me very busy. I decided to check the many notifications that I’ve missed since my last post.

The blog is growing and people are engaging with the posts I’ve made and that is good. Thank you really, it’s much appreciated.

Today wasn’t a good day for me, I was so overwhelmed I locked myself in my room, I guess I cried 😭 for maybe a few hours. Now I don’t know what came over me but I felt so much better after. I was thinking unkind thoughts ,between work home the current pandemic the news. It was just too much.

Check on your strong friends we are not okay. I was a part of a meeting this week where a team member shared how people are not coping in this pandemic our realities have changed we’ve lost loved ones, jobs, the uncertainty of not knowing what will happen next is just too much. When I heard this person speak I didn’t know or think that for a minute I was going through the motions. No one checked on me but a notification from this blog post that I wrote last year prompted me to reflect and refocus my bearings.

I just want you to reach out to someone if you need to talk clear your head. Ask for help, too often we allow pride from giving us that break that is so badly needed.

I’m not at a 100% but I’m still alive.

I hope you are okay, alive and well.

Until next post,

Stay safe

Dee xoxo

Letting Go – (Blogmas Day 18)

I’ve mentioned my friend Sally* before, we were having a conversation today over coffee. It was good to see her. It’s almost midnight and I’ve realized that I haven’t made a post entry. We’ve got to figure out a blogging schedule going forward.

Letting Go- You will not heal until you’ve let go of what broke you; say that again. Those words came up in our conversation and I thought they were very profound.

Letting Go

Do you find it hard to find closure after a bad break up? Do you still feel that you need to give them a second chance because it was “your” fault why that thing happened and if you just gave them another shot things will get better? Do you still find it hard to hold onto that friendship because you grew up in the same neighborhood went to the same middle school? It could be your job, friendship, relationship whatever it is until you let go and rid yourself of the hurt you will not find peace.

2021 is a few weeks away. Start over, find the peace that you truly deserve. Your happiness means more than anything else. Take that leap and let Let Go, you’d be better off for it.Let Go…

Just saw the beautiful woman on Twitter share how she has left her boyfriend of 8 years 🙌🏿👏 @matthewstam1. I hope they’re other brave men and women like her who chose peace and happiness first. Let Go….

Until Next Post

Dee