Blogmas Day 8🥳💗

In my Cocoon…

I’ve always thought if I played it safe, followed the rules I’d get ahead in life. I wouldn’t be stuck, I wouldn’t feel trapped. I was wrong, I’ve been wrong. That’s not how the real world works.

Yes rules are there for a reason and like everything else if you break the rules you have to face the consequences. To me it feels that I’ve been following the rules and watching the rule breakers soar ahead.

Have you ever had that thought? I have, I’m having it now as I pour my self into this piece. This is not something I’m hearing from a girlfriend whose venting. This is me feeling all these emotions. I’ve worked proved myself and gotten sidelined over and over again. We have this saying ” A Cat and A Dog doesn’t have the same luck” . Ever since I’ve heard that saying I’ve been playing it safe with everything in my life.

I’m not saying that I’m about to go rob a bank. No, I’m thinking that it’s time to take a stand ,whose to say things will end badly? I mean this feeling and these words have been holding me back and like the butterfly it’s time I break out of that cocoon and soar.

It’s scary, it’s nerve-wracking but I will be better off. Safe feels good, being cautious is ok but nothing fun happens there. The people who makes it big didn’t play it safe. Can you imagine Oprah Winfrey playing it safe after being fired? Or Michelle Obama?

As I write , they’re two things I have to do before I close out 2021 and I know once I’ve unlocked that part of my life, nothing I mean nothing is going to hold me back. I have been holding me back. I’m the one who needs to get out of my head. Stop being an overthinker and think positive , I am and I can. Break free from my cocoon.

I’ve made the first step to recovery admitting fault, it’s invigorating and I feel like now I can take on everything. My mind, I’ve been holding me back, thinking I would fail or I will get in trouble.

Greatness is in me and greatness is in you. A friend of mine have been putting off going back to school because like me they’ve convinced themselves that they’re not good enough, I won’t make the qualifying exams to matriculation. Last night, she called me to view her results , she did the exams ,studied applied herself and in the hour of truth couldn’t bring herself to view the results. She called me ,very anxious, nerves all over the place- Dee ,girl what if I failed, it’s been 20 years, I don’t have anymore time, all the excuses you could think of.

I entered her details and when I saw the results ,I paused for a minute. She was still going on and on about how she doesn’t know what she’d do if she’d fail.

Telling her how smart and amazing she was and how proud I was of her calmed her down a bit. Congratulations 👏you’re going to University. Tears of joy, immediately she started speaking positively believing that after 20years she had fulfilled a childhood dream, go to University. Achieving all this especially in a pandemic with a chaotic family life. My friend has broken her cocoon and now she flies ….

Join us and breakfree from your cocoon. Let’s do this thing together.

Feel free, be free …

Until Next Post…

Dee

Do we really know our best friends?

I just watched “A Simple Favor” on Netflix starring Blake Lively, I’ve loved her since Gossip Girl.

Do we really know our friends?

Blake plays the role of a snobbish school mom, Emily, who would make any soccer mom feel they’re not cool enough.

Stephanie is that mom who is always engaged very familiar with the schedules and activities ended up being “friends” or best friends even with Emily through the budding friendship that both their sons had formed and so had play dates together.

Emily and Stephanie had a strange relationship. They’d share secrets over dey Martini and causal banter. Emily’s husband was a struggling writer , both seemed to have it all figured out and the chemistry was there between them. Stephanie had lost her husband in a car accident and haven’t been dating anyone recently.

As mom’s we all need that one friend who understands the vigors of parenting, someone who understands that not all the time you want to “mom”. Stephanie was great, she had her Mommy vlog where she shared tips and tricks that can help other fellow mom’s. She would find her self doing these favours of picking up Emily’s son from school if she’s running late or her husband was out of town.

Things took a turn when one of those favours ended up with Emily missing for days. Of course Stephanie the concerned friend did all she could with trying to figure out what had happened, everything started falling into place and Stephanie is left to wonder. Do I really know this person with whom I’ve shared my deepest darkest secrets with?

I honestly did expect the plot twist. It’s a good watch. I’d give it

7/10.

Until Next time

Dee xoxo

Letting Go – (Blogmas Day 18)

I’ve mentioned my friend Sally* before, we were having a conversation today over coffee. It was good to see her. It’s almost midnight and I’ve realized that I haven’t made a post entry. We’ve got to figure out a blogging schedule going forward.

Letting Go- You will not heal until you’ve let go of what broke you; say that again. Those words came up in our conversation and I thought they were very profound.

Letting Go

Do you find it hard to find closure after a bad break up? Do you still feel that you need to give them a second chance because it was “your” fault why that thing happened and if you just gave them another shot things will get better? Do you still find it hard to hold onto that friendship because you grew up in the same neighborhood went to the same middle school? It could be your job, friendship, relationship whatever it is until you let go and rid yourself of the hurt you will not find peace.

2021 is a few weeks away. Start over, find the peace that you truly deserve. Your happiness means more than anything else. Take that leap and let Let Go, you’d be better off for it.Let Go…

Just saw the beautiful woman on Twitter share how she has left her boyfriend of 8 years 🙌🏿👏 @matthewstam1. I hope they’re other brave men and women like her who chose peace and happiness first. Let Go….

Until Next Post

Dee

Single at Christmas – Blogmas Day 14

It’s crazy how sometimes you feel as if things are just not going the way you want them to. You pay your bills on time, you take care of your family, water the plants, feed the cats. Somehow you are left to find yourself sitting down looking out in oblivion. Your innermost thoughts are trapped inside wanting to scream. You catch your breath, you wipe the tears, closing your eyes just wishing this feeling of hopelessness would go away.

Somebody anybody, when will it be my turn. You’re doing everything by the books, you pay your goddamn taxes, you have no tickets, you help your neighbor carry her groceries, but,you just can’t catch a break.

Sally* my friend decided to vent to me just now-Text message notification on my phone interrupted her thoughts –

” I miss you- JD”

Why now? It’s been (6) months after that messy breakup, the breakup of the century, breakup in a pandemic. We warned her but she didn’t listen, he is tall, athletic, has a successful business, the sex was great but; he had a bad temper. Things didn’t work out, he cheated on her.

Sally, is one of my closest friends and it has been a rough couple of months for her.

“I’m not going back there, nope. I’ve moved on. It has been a long and hard journey but I’m in a better place right now. I am up for a promotion at work and there’s no time to get caught up with great sex JD. “

Shutterstock- Comforting Woman Crying

Being single at Christmas time in a pandemic is different. There are days when she feels as if the world is going to end, days like today when she feels overwhelmed. She has to remind herself of the goal. She has a plan and she will stick to it. She’s now focused on things that were ignored in the past.

How do you cope at Christmas time as a single person?

To be continued….

Until Next Post

Dee…