Silence isn’t always golden. This is a phrase I shared in 2011 on my Facebook page.
Silence- complete absence of sound (noun) google definition.
I was never one who always spoke up for myself for failure to get on someone’s bad side. All this changed after I’ve realized Silence isn’t always golden. Speaking up allows the other person to know how you’re feeling, whether you’re in agreement or not. It’s important to share your feelings without fear of the outcome.
I’ve been reading books, listening to podcasts talking to people who are very unapologetic about who they are and what they bring to the table. If you’re at a job and you have all the ideas that would make a process work and you don’t say anything, that is to your detriment. How many times have you missed an opportunity to share ideas and even get ahead in life? What has your silence done for you?
After reading the book The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F$@k – Mark Manson it has further cemented me to speak up or focus more directly on what makes me happy. Putting yourself first allows you to strive, to grow and achieve things that you’ve always wanted to achieve.
Whatever you do or say always focus on the bottom line YOU. Ensure that all your encounters leaves you satisfied with your response to any situation. It doesn’t happen over night it takes practice and drive. Never miss another opportunity to shine because you remained silent.
It’s been a minute. Working from home paired with other demands has me very busy. I decided to check the many notifications that I’ve missed since my last post.
The blog is growing and people are engaging with the posts I’ve made and that is good. Thank you really, it’s much appreciated.
Today wasn’t a good day for me, I was so overwhelmed I locked myself in my room, I guess I cried 😭 for maybe a few hours. Now I don’t know what came over me but I felt so much better after. I was thinking unkind thoughts ,between work home the current pandemic the news. It was just too much.
Check on your strong friends we are not okay. I was a part of a meeting this week where a team member shared how people are not coping in this pandemic our realities have changed we’ve lost loved ones, jobs, the uncertainty of not knowing what will happen next is just too much. When I heard this person speak I didn’t know or think that for a minute I was going through the motions. No one checked on me but a notification from this blog post that I wrote last year prompted me to reflect and refocus my bearings.
I just want you to reach out to someone if you need to talk clear your head. Ask for help, too often we allow pride from giving us that break that is so badly needed.
A few years ago, I went to a woman’s conference.This was my first time attending and it was hosting its second staging. A very good friend of mine went to the first and told me how awesome, it was and no matter what I just couldn’t miss the second.
I was excited I wanted to experience this conference my friend made it seem as if it transformed her life. There were speakers from various backgrounds, judges, entrepreneurs, bankers very powerful and esteemed women of society. I thought to myself how could these women relate to me? I listened to them took notes until this Marketing executive came on the stage. Her topic “I AM”.
Two words, that I’ve never thought so much about resonated with me and the audience who was moved by her story.
Your I AM is very powerful, those two words can either make you or break you. 2020 was rough, many people did not make it thankfully you’re here. I AM two words that can shape your reality, based on what words you place after it. If you want to achieve anything in life you have to affirm yourself. You are the most important factor in the equation. For you to get up out of bed, you first have to decide whether or not you want to get out of bed. So too, with anything else that you want to achieve this year. You have to decide.
When you get up in the morning, after you’ve had your devotions if you’re a religious person, yoga whatever you do to relax and be at peace with yourself you need to affirm yourself. Record yourself if that’s easier for you to work with and play it while you’re preparing breakfast. What’s your I AM?
I AM strong
I Am loved
I Am Important
I Am Handsome
I Am Beautiful
I Am an overcomer
Affirming yourself every day allows you to build your self-esteem as well as build your character. You will be more confident which will make you feel like you can take on any task that is given to you. Affirming yourself is good for your mental health. Your I Am is your superpower. Try it!
It’s the most wonderful time of the year! Cues my Andy Williams voice .
One of the harshest realities that hit close to home is that not everyone is as fortune as I am to still have my day job with no loss in benefits. In true Christmas spirit amidst the hustle and bustle of getting the gifts and the whole shebang let us remember those persons who lost their jobs or suffered pay cuts during this pandemic.
I want you to consider the following in giving back. Christmas ,the true meaning is about giving love and sharing hope.
1. Give to your favourite Charities.
2. Prepare meals and give to the homeless.
3. Donate the things you no longer need.
4. Reach out to the nearest community centre or church and volunteer to help out at a soup kitchen.
5. When you’re going shopping pick up and extra item and put a care package for that neighbor or family who is trying to make ends meet.
6. Check in on that elderly person down the road. Not many people can be around their loved ones right now. ( remember Covid-19 protocols)
7. Check in on that family member/friend whom you may think has it all together. The truth is a lot of persons are overwhelmed with everything that is happening and it’s really the thought that counts.
8. Remember the child at the children’s home when you’re going toy shopping ; or you can donate the toys that your child no longer plays with.
What are some of the things we can do to give back this Christmas?