Silence isn’t always golden. This is a phrase I shared in 2011 on my Facebook page.
Silence- complete absence of sound (noun) google definition.
I was never one who always spoke up for myself for failure to get on someone’s bad side. All this changed after I’ve realized Silence isn’t always golden. Speaking up allows the other person to know how you’re feeling, whether you’re in agreement or not. It’s important to share your feelings without fear of the outcome.
I’ve been reading books, listening to podcasts talking to people who are very unapologetic about who they are and what they bring to the table. If you’re at a job and you have all the ideas that would make a process work and you don’t say anything, that is to your detriment. How many times have you missed an opportunity to share ideas and even get ahead in life? What has your silence done for you?
After reading the book The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F$@k – Mark Manson it has further cemented me to speak up or focus more directly on what makes me happy. Putting yourself first allows you to strive, to grow and achieve things that you’ve always wanted to achieve.
Whatever you do or say always focus on the bottom line YOU. Ensure that all your encounters leaves you satisfied with your response to any situation. It doesn’t happen over night it takes practice and drive. Never miss another opportunity to shine because you remained silent.
I’ve always thought if I played it safe, followed the rules I’d get ahead in life. I wouldn’t be stuck, I wouldn’t feel trapped. I was wrong, I’ve been wrong. That’s not how the real world works.
Yes rules are there for a reason and like everything else if you break the rules you have to face the consequences. To me it feels that I’ve been following the rules and watching the rule breakers soar ahead.
Have you ever had that thought? I have, I’m having it now as I pour my self into this piece. This is not something I’m hearing from a girlfriend whose venting. This is me feeling all these emotions. I’ve worked proved myself and gotten sidelined over and over again. We have this saying ” A Cat and A Dog doesn’t have the same luck” . Ever since I’ve heard that saying I’ve been playing it safe with everything in my life.
I’m not saying that I’m about to go rob a bank. No, I’m thinking that it’s time to take a stand ,whose to say things will end badly? I mean this feeling and these words have been holding me back and like the butterfly it’s time I break out of that cocoon and soar.
It’s scary, it’s nerve-wracking but I will be better off. Safe feels good, being cautious is ok but nothing fun happens there. The people who makes it big didn’t play it safe. Can you imagine Oprah Winfrey playing it safe after being fired? Or Michelle Obama?
As I write , they’re two things I have to do before I close out 2021 and I know once I’ve unlocked that part of my life, nothing I mean nothing is going to hold me back. I have been holding me back. I’m the one who needs to get out of my head. Stop being an overthinker and think positive , I am and I can. Break free from my cocoon.
I’ve made the first step to recovery admitting fault, it’s invigorating and I feel like now I can take on everything. My mind, I’ve been holding me back, thinking I would fail or I will get in trouble.
Greatness is in me and greatness is in you. A friend of mine have been putting off going back to school because like me they’ve convinced themselves that they’re not good enough, I won’t make the qualifying exams to matriculation. Last night, she called me to view her results , she did the exams ,studied applied herself and in the hour of truth couldn’t bring herself to view the results. She called me ,very anxious, nerves all over the place- Dee ,girl what if I failed, it’s been 20 years, I don’t have anymore time, all the excuses you could think of.
I entered her details and when I saw the results ,I paused for a minute. She was still going on and on about how she doesn’t know what she’d do if she’d fail.
Telling her how smart and amazing she was and how proud I was of her calmed her down a bit. Congratulations 👏you’re going to University. Tears of joy, immediately she started speaking positively believing that after 20years she had fulfilled a childhood dream, go to University. Achieving all this especially in a pandemic with a chaotic family life. My friend has broken her cocoon and now she flies ….
Join us and breakfree from your cocoon. Let’s do this thing together.
I don’t think we truly ever really grasp the phrase “live your life”… It’s 1:31 am just got up because I felt thirsty. I pick up my phone and decided to browse until I feel sleepy again. I go unto Twitter and before I could scroll to the end all I could see were people saying condolences, I can’t believe this , what about his wife and baby. Curiosity got the best of me and I did a quick search to find out that, one of the persons I interacted with on social media drowned today.
Shock, disbelief, and all the emotions you feel when you hear of death has triggered me. Now I’m up in bed thinking that this person I’ve never met is gone and his wife and 2 year old is without a husband and father. This man who would often take time out of his busy schedule to share with his many followers what you needed to know in the creative industry topped off with daily musings of his adorable daughter.
Not often am I triggered by the death of someone I have never met, but I’m left to think about how he often shared that we should live our lives to the fullest and not wait for tomorrow as it’s promised to no one. Whatever it is that you’re (myself included) thinking of doing to make your life worthwhile you should do it. Stop wasting time thinking about what-ifs, go out, and do that damn thing.
You see this man when he was 20 years old had this amazing idea that would change how people would engage in the creative industry, he met upon naysayers but that never stopped him from living his truest potential. He made it big by the age of 25. He’s now 34 years old. So young, still have so much to do and he never wasted any time listening to people who thought his dreams weren’t valid.
You only have one life, one you, so start somewhere do something. What will be your legacy? Don’t let people or your loved ones say “you know he/she wanted to do this but never got to or was too afraid to start”. Let the people we leave behind be comforted by the fact you did the unthinkable, you went after what you believed in and you were able to leave a mark.
Live your life, don’t wait until tomorrow, I know how scary the thought of doing something you’ve always wanted to do is but you have to just start. Do the thing that makes you scared. It’s ok if you fail but don’t stop and allow the negative to hold you back. Get up and brush yourself off and start again.
Lastly, in living your life hug the people that matter. Cherish your loved ones, don’t take for granted the people that matter. Especially in this time where most people are not able to visit, make that call you’ll be happy you did.
If you’ve read to the end of my ramblings, Thank you 😊, I appreciate it. Live your life….
You’re always reading, 😑 annoyed my husband said to me. He’s been nagging me to spend more time with doing anything else other than being tucked away in our bedroom reading books.
It’s been several months since the pandemic. We would be much busier trying to maneuver our respective jobs , raising a toddler and making things work.
It’s not easy, things are not the same or as they used to be. Our lives have been uprooted and so we have to get used to the new norm. We have conflicting schedules, online schooling taking care of a sick parent. Listen, I’m always cooking, juggling being a wife and caregiver but this sh*t is just too much. I thought I was going to lose it. Things got tighter, financially and while we’re still okay I had to cancel most of my subscription boxes, yes I had to make sacrifices we both had.
So, on October 5 I created this blog. I didn’t know what I was doing, still don’t ,but like all things before I’ll figure it out. I started reading books. One good book led to another, and another you get the picture. Book Reviews came and like this post in between ramblings. I haven’t set up a schedule just yet but I’m working off my mood for now.
How has Covid-19 affected your life?
Reading books and posting on my blog has been helping me not to go completely insane.
That’s all for now, I’m currently reading #WIldGame by Andriene Brodeur-