Silence isn’t always golden. This is a phrase I shared in 2011 on my Facebook page.
Silence- complete absence of sound (noun) google definition.
I was never one who always spoke up for myself for failure to get on someone’s bad side. All this changed after I’ve realized Silence isn’t always golden. Speaking up allows the other person to know how you’re feeling, whether you’re in agreement or not. It’s important to share your feelings without fear of the outcome.
I’ve been reading books, listening to podcasts talking to people who are very unapologetic about who they are and what they bring to the table. If you’re at a job and you have all the ideas that would make a process work and you don’t say anything, that is to your detriment. How many times have you missed an opportunity to share ideas and even get ahead in life? What has your silence done for you?
After reading the book The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F$@k – Mark Manson it has further cemented me to speak up or focus more directly on what makes me happy. Putting yourself first allows you to strive, to grow and achieve things that you’ve always wanted to achieve.
Whatever you do or say always focus on the bottom line YOU. Ensure that all your encounters leaves you satisfied with your response to any situation. It doesn’t happen over night it takes practice and drive. Never miss another opportunity to shine because you remained silent.
So you guys know that I’ve been free of the Covid-19 virus for two years but caught it a week or so ago.
I must say that outside of the positive test I wouldn’t know that I was actually carrying this virus. I woke up feeling awful, that’s typical when I have bad sinus days. The cough was not even an indicator, with change of climate especially around winter I would have days when I just had a cough.
Thankfully I had reasons to take a Covid-19 test I got tested and was able to quarantine. I did so per the CDCs instructions. At the end of the period I did a home test which was negative. I further did a PCR molecular test and that also showed I was negative.
I am thankful for my family who was able to provide support during this time, running errands and or being their on video calls to keep me company. I am also grateful that I did not experience any major problems while being positive and I lived to tell the tale.
Since everything I’ve been double masking to to be extra careful. It would’ve been nicer to not get the virus after being vaccinated, but sh*t happens.
2022 is off to a great start. My word for this year is Intentional.
Intentional– according to Google -adjective – done on purpose; deliberate.
This year I want to be Intentional with everything that I want. I am going to be intentional with my job, family, my relationships and overall my goals.
I often see people sharing the amazing things they have achieved while managing their chaotic lives and frankly that’s something I’ve always admired and wanted for myself. They’ve motivated me to be my best self. I am my biggest motivator and competitor if I want it I can achieve it.
The last time I did French, was in the 8th grade, many moons ago and well Spanish was a fave of mine ,I did it up to first year of College. Last year, someone I followed on twitter , shared how they were able to learn a new language on the app Babbeland Duolingo . Both apps are available on the App and Playstore, they’re free with option to get more if you purchase plans. They’re offering crazy discounts if you sign up for a year plan. I’ve done both and so far so good and I am learning a new language.
Yesterday was my birthday 🥳 🎉🎈🎊. Every year as a gift to myself I purchase something or giveaway something special. This year I kind of went ham and got myself a new IPhone. Yep! Kind of crazy I know. I still love Android of course I still have my Samsung 6S Lite. That’s my baby ☺️. I have been ignoring the itch of getting the new IPad 9 even when Apple and all those sites kept on sending me the discount codes. I have decided that I will not be making anymore purchases for now.
They’re other goals that I would love to achieve in 2022 and beyond and managing my finances will help me to realize those dreams.
I’m excited to learn both French and Spanish. Join me on this journey. Let’s be friends and challenge each other on the respective platforms. Both offers beginner to advance levels and you can schedule your lessons depending on your daily routine. I do 10 and 15 minute sessions and I love that the app also offers practice and live sessions so that I can interact with people who are pretty much beginners.
It’s the 3rd day of the week, month and year. Welcome to 2022, nothing much has changed and we are still in a pandemic. It’s rather interesting that almost two years in and this pandemic keeps getting worse, we’ve been experiencing different variants people are still not following the protocols and the government is doing what it can to continue to sensitize and get as much people vaccinated.
2022 is just a continuation of the journey. I’m not using a new book, it’s just another chapter a clean page to continue this roller coaster journey called life. I’ve had wins and some losses but in all of it I’ve learned some great lessons. Lessons that I hold very dear to my heart. I’ve lost loved ones along the way that has made me realize that I should continue to cherish the ones I hold dear to my heart.
I have a job, it has its fair share of ups and downs. I am grateful that I still have a job, many persons have lost their jobs and to be able to still have mine is totally awesome. I would love to continue to further my development in my area of expertise to be able to advance in my career in a few years.
Relationships- this is a touchy subject. The word is intentional. Be intentional with your relationships. Do what makes you happy. When in doubt choose YOU . Spend as much time as you can with your loved ones ,time is so important and it goes so fast.
Hobbies- Get one. Find something to occupy your down time. Learn a new skill , language , something. Last year I started gardening, hand lettering and continued blogging.
Goals- those dreams, goals you have in mind write them down. Manifestation works, I’ve done it over and over again. I am a living testament that vision boarding works and working and being intentional about what you want in life works. I’ve learned that in everything we do make it realistic.
Make 2022 your year, we’ve gone through the pandemic we are still going through the pandemic. Celebrate your life, remember to follow the protocols it’s important. Life will be dull without you. We need you around so do so responsibly.
I’ve always thought if I played it safe, followed the rules I’d get ahead in life. I wouldn’t be stuck, I wouldn’t feel trapped. I was wrong, I’ve been wrong. That’s not how the real world works.
Yes rules are there for a reason and like everything else if you break the rules you have to face the consequences. To me it feels that I’ve been following the rules and watching the rule breakers soar ahead.
Have you ever had that thought? I have, I’m having it now as I pour my self into this piece. This is not something I’m hearing from a girlfriend whose venting. This is me feeling all these emotions. I’ve worked proved myself and gotten sidelined over and over again. We have this saying ” A Cat and A Dog doesn’t have the same luck” . Ever since I’ve heard that saying I’ve been playing it safe with everything in my life.
I’m not saying that I’m about to go rob a bank. No, I’m thinking that it’s time to take a stand ,whose to say things will end badly? I mean this feeling and these words have been holding me back and like the butterfly it’s time I break out of that cocoon and soar.
It’s scary, it’s nerve-wracking but I will be better off. Safe feels good, being cautious is ok but nothing fun happens there. The people who makes it big didn’t play it safe. Can you imagine Oprah Winfrey playing it safe after being fired? Or Michelle Obama?
As I write , they’re two things I have to do before I close out 2021 and I know once I’ve unlocked that part of my life, nothing I mean nothing is going to hold me back. I have been holding me back. I’m the one who needs to get out of my head. Stop being an overthinker and think positive , I am and I can. Break free from my cocoon.
I’ve made the first step to recovery admitting fault, it’s invigorating and I feel like now I can take on everything. My mind, I’ve been holding me back, thinking I would fail or I will get in trouble.
Greatness is in me and greatness is in you. A friend of mine have been putting off going back to school because like me they’ve convinced themselves that they’re not good enough, I won’t make the qualifying exams to matriculation. Last night, she called me to view her results , she did the exams ,studied applied herself and in the hour of truth couldn’t bring herself to view the results. She called me ,very anxious, nerves all over the place- Dee ,girl what if I failed, it’s been 20 years, I don’t have anymore time, all the excuses you could think of.
I entered her details and when I saw the results ,I paused for a minute. She was still going on and on about how she doesn’t know what she’d do if she’d fail.
Telling her how smart and amazing she was and how proud I was of her calmed her down a bit. Congratulations 👏you’re going to University. Tears of joy, immediately she started speaking positively believing that after 20years she had fulfilled a childhood dream, go to University. Achieving all this especially in a pandemic with a chaotic family life. My friend has broken her cocoon and now she flies ….
Join us and breakfree from your cocoon. Let’s do this thing together.