Silence isn’t always golden. This is a phrase I shared in 2011 on my Facebook page.
Silence- complete absence of sound (noun) google definition.
I was never one who always spoke up for myself for failure to get on someone’s bad side. All this changed after I’ve realized Silence isn’t always golden. Speaking up allows the other person to know how you’re feeling, whether you’re in agreement or not. It’s important to share your feelings without fear of the outcome.
I’ve been reading books, listening to podcasts talking to people who are very unapologetic about who they are and what they bring to the table. If you’re at a job and you have all the ideas that would make a process work and you don’t say anything, that is to your detriment. How many times have you missed an opportunity to share ideas and even get ahead in life? What has your silence done for you?
After reading the book The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F$@k – Mark Manson it has further cemented me to speak up or focus more directly on what makes me happy. Putting yourself first allows you to strive, to grow and achieve things that you’ve always wanted to achieve.
Whatever you do or say always focus on the bottom line YOU. Ensure that all your encounters leaves you satisfied with your response to any situation. It doesn’t happen over night it takes practice and drive. Never miss another opportunity to shine because you remained silent.
Almost one year ago I shared with you about my Exposure to Covid-19 . Today I come back after being cautious scared almost of catching this virus because I’ve seen and heard the horror stories with a Covid positive test result.
It took me a good ten minutes to fully register the results after I received the email. My sister was the first person I called to share the results. It seemed the universe was playing an awful joke at the time because she also tested positive at work. So two Covid positive test. This is not something I was looking forward to receiving.
The CDC gave some new guidelines regarding quarantine etc. The site where I tested also provided details in the event I needed medical attention.
The only symptom if any I’ve experienced since tested I’d say is a cough but I have allergies so of course it could have been mistaken as allergies, my allergies are chaotic at this time of the year. I’ve been in quarantine for almost 10 days and outside of the on and off cough I haven’t had any other symptoms thankfully.
I’ve been home most days before this result so to think I’ve been “ careful” wearing my mask washing my hands after being out in public. When im home pretty much no mask is worn. I can’t say how I contracted the virus or from whom. I’m vaccinated which I guess is good , no underlying issues that im aware of.
I figure I will wait until the quarantine is over to retest to find out if the virus is out of my system. I’ve read that the virus can remain in one’s system over 3 months I hope that isn’t the case. I will continue to wear my mask and being extra cautious when I’m around people. I would not want to be the cause of transmission to anyone.
Please continue to be careful out there guys so much is happening and you may just never know. Get tested if you are not well even if you may think it is your allergies.
Have a good rest of the day. I will provide an update on my status when I have one. I am in good spirits , drinking my fluids and trying to stay positive.
You have to be intentional, at least that’s what I’m telling myself. It all came up through an online meeting I had with my team. Work colleague of mine said she needed someone to workout with; asked if I would be her accountability partner and like the supportive person I am, I accepted. I told her, that I had a few gears I had ordered on Amazon until they’re here we wouldn’t start maybe light stuff.
The items got here yesterday (6/30) well part of my order. A jump rope and a Gallon water bottle. The one with the motivational prompts. I figured if I’m going to do this I needed the push.
I started drinking water later than expected however by the end of the night I made it to the mark 9pm. Didn’t finish. My toddler and mom cheered me on during the course of the day. I figured that’s a pretty good start. I haven’t done as much jumping. I don’t know if I even remember how to use a jump rope. My toddler 🙄 , with the can do attitude “you can do it mommy” 😩just what I needed my own personal cheerleader🥺. I only got three jumps in😆🎉. I will try to get more jumps in today.
Yeah, Dee has started her fitness journey. I don’t know what the heck I’m doing but I figured I’d start somewhere. I have a partner whom I’ll be checking in daily as well as my toddler to keep me on my toes. I haven’t weighed in I really don’t want to feel pressured by it I have an idea of what that number is and will use that as a mental note.
Why now? I’d say why not. Covid gains are obvious and this is something that I’ve started and stopped over the period of lock down. I’m hoping eventually little habits like eating snacks,sweets will stop. I don’t want to go on a full diet cleanse in one go. I want to take it one step at a time until that taste or yearning is gone.
Dee is embarking on a fitness journey. I want to document as much as I can and I’m excited to see results. For now I really want to get to a healthier weight be fit and stick to it. Trying to avoid any ailment that comes with neglecting ones health at least the ones I can avoid.
No pictures yet, they’re coming.
It’s good to check in with you guys I hope you’re all safe.
Did you think that I was going to ignore all the things that you did to make us reach the point ?
For months I’ve been quiet, trying to be the bigger person. Why should I be the bigger person? Fuck that shit! I’m going to let you know that everything you did, everything that you’ve said to hurt me. I trusted you, there’s nothing that I wouldn’t do for you because I considered you my rock.
I’m a fool for allowing my heart to ignore all the signs. There were always red flags but when you’re in love head over heels you are blind to a lot of things.
It’s time to stand up, use your voice don’t allow anyone to make you feel small. Catch your breath, plan your escape. Then and only then will you convince them that you’re serious. You deserve to be loved, respected, and cared for.
A few years ago, I went to a woman’s conference.This was my first time attending and it was hosting its second staging. A very good friend of mine went to the first and told me how awesome, it was and no matter what I just couldn’t miss the second.
I was excited I wanted to experience this conference my friend made it seem as if it transformed her life. There were speakers from various backgrounds, judges, entrepreneurs, bankers very powerful and esteemed women of society. I thought to myself how could these women relate to me? I listened to them took notes until this Marketing executive came on the stage. Her topic “I AM”.
Two words, that I’ve never thought so much about resonated with me and the audience who was moved by her story.
Your I AM is very powerful, those two words can either make you or break you. 2020 was rough, many people did not make it thankfully you’re here. I AM two words that can shape your reality, based on what words you place after it. If you want to achieve anything in life you have to affirm yourself. You are the most important factor in the equation. For you to get up out of bed, you first have to decide whether or not you want to get out of bed. So too, with anything else that you want to achieve this year. You have to decide.
When you get up in the morning, after you’ve had your devotions if you’re a religious person, yoga whatever you do to relax and be at peace with yourself you need to affirm yourself. Record yourself if that’s easier for you to work with and play it while you’re preparing breakfast. What’s your I AM?
I AM strong
I Am loved
I Am Important
I Am Handsome
I Am Beautiful
I Am an overcomer
Affirming yourself every day allows you to build your self-esteem as well as build your character. You will be more confident which will make you feel like you can take on any task that is given to you. Affirming yourself is good for your mental health. Your I Am is your superpower. Try it!
I’ve mentioned my friend Sally* before, we were having a conversation today over coffee. It was good to see her. It’s almost midnight and I’ve realized that I haven’t made a post entry. We’ve got to figure out a blogging schedule going forward.
Letting Go-You will not heal until you’ve let go of what broke you; say that again. Those words came up in our conversation and I thought they were very profound.
Do you find it hard to find closure after a bad break up? Do you still feel that you need to give them a second chance because it was “your” fault why that thing happened and if you just gave them another shot things will get better? Do you still find it hard to hold onto that friendship because you grew up in the same neighborhood went to the same middle school? It could be your job, friendship, relationship whatever it is until you let go and rid yourself of the hurt you will not find peace.
2021 is a few weeks away. Start over, find the peace that you truly deserve. Your happiness means more than anything else. Take that leap and let Let Go, you’d be better off for it.Let Go…
Just saw the beautiful woman on Twitter share how she has left her boyfriend of 8 years 🙌🏿👏 @matthewstam1. I hope they’re other brave men and women like her who chose peace and happiness first. Let Go….