Relationships aren’t One size fits All -#Blogmas Day 19

Social media is fun and “all men are trash”.

That’s not always the case. Social Media is not always fun and not all men are trash.

Relationships on Social Media are not perfect. Yes, they’re couples that you love seeing on your timeline and you feel a sense of attachment to. No couple that shares snippets of their “glowing” life the “couples goals” isn’t real. Those couples experience similar heartache that the ordinary person does. They’re just more open and better at putting together the experience to get you emotionally invested in their daily lives. This my friend is not healthy. Take these relationships with a grain of salt. Every other week there is one celebrity who is getting divorced and or breaking up.

” Relationships aren’t a one size fits all”.

Your relationship is unique to you. What works for your relationship may not work for mine. Also, people only share good things online; you have no idea what people are truly going through behind the scenes. It’s ok to cheer on the relationship but the moment you get invested that it affects you personally and your outlook on life, comparing your relationship to them; you need to take a step back.

Be deliberate with your relationships. If there is something that you feel that you can do to make it better talk to your partner but don’t hold the standards of your favorite celebrity couple against your partner who is truly trying. Newsflash maybe what you’re trying to do is just not for you. That’s okay, figure out what is and be happy with that.

Create your own life, his reality and their reality are two different worlds. Something like finances, for example, A joint account is not the answer to everything. The key is to have proper money management. Who is better at managing the finances in the relationship? That’s the person who should be responsible for that task. Have monthly check-ins just for transparency. If you need help with managing your finances here are Ten (10) Budgeting Tips to help you in your relationship.

Until next time

Dee

Letting Go – (Blogmas Day 18)

I’ve mentioned my friend Sally* before, we were having a conversation today over coffee. It was good to see her. It’s almost midnight and I’ve realized that I haven’t made a post entry. We’ve got to figure out a blogging schedule going forward.

Letting Go- You will not heal until you’ve let go of what broke you; say that again. Those words came up in our conversation and I thought they were very profound.

Letting Go

Do you find it hard to find closure after a bad break up? Do you still feel that you need to give them a second chance because it was “your” fault why that thing happened and if you just gave them another shot things will get better? Do you still find it hard to hold onto that friendship because you grew up in the same neighborhood went to the same middle school? It could be your job, friendship, relationship whatever it is until you let go and rid yourself of the hurt you will not find peace.

2021 is a few weeks away. Start over, find the peace that you truly deserve. Your happiness means more than anything else. Take that leap and let Let Go, you’d be better off for it.Let Go…

Just saw the beautiful woman on Twitter share how she has left her boyfriend of 8 years 🙌🏿👏 @matthewstam1. I hope they’re other brave men and women like her who chose peace and happiness first. Let Go….

Until Next Post

Dee