Silence isn’t always golden. This is a phrase I shared in 2011 on my Facebook page.
Silence- complete absence of sound (noun) google definition.
I was never one who always spoke up for myself for failure to get on someone’s bad side. All this changed after I’ve realized Silence isn’t always golden. Speaking up allows the other person to know how you’re feeling, whether you’re in agreement or not. It’s important to share your feelings without fear of the outcome.
I’ve been reading books, listening to podcasts talking to people who are very unapologetic about who they are and what they bring to the table. If you’re at a job and you have all the ideas that would make a process work and you don’t say anything, that is to your detriment. How many times have you missed an opportunity to share ideas and even get ahead in life? What has your silence done for you?
After reading the book The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F$@k – Mark Manson it has further cemented me to speak up or focus more directly on what makes me happy. Putting yourself first allows you to strive, to grow and achieve things that you’ve always wanted to achieve.
Whatever you do or say always focus on the bottom line YOU. Ensure that all your encounters leaves you satisfied with your response to any situation. It doesn’t happen over night it takes practice and drive. Never miss another opportunity to shine because you remained silent.
A few years ago, I went to a woman’s conference.This was my first time attending and it was hosting its second staging. A very good friend of mine went to the first and told me how awesome, it was and no matter what I just couldn’t miss the second.
I was excited I wanted to experience this conference my friend made it seem as if it transformed her life. There were speakers from various backgrounds, judges, entrepreneurs, bankers very powerful and esteemed women of society. I thought to myself how could these women relate to me? I listened to them took notes until this Marketing executive came on the stage. Her topic “I AM”.
Two words, that I’ve never thought so much about resonated with me and the audience who was moved by her story.
Your I AM is very powerful, those two words can either make you or break you. 2020 was rough, many people did not make it thankfully you’re here. I AM two words that can shape your reality, based on what words you place after it. If you want to achieve anything in life you have to affirm yourself. You are the most important factor in the equation. For you to get up out of bed, you first have to decide whether or not you want to get out of bed. So too, with anything else that you want to achieve this year. You have to decide.
When you get up in the morning, after you’ve had your devotions if you’re a religious person, yoga whatever you do to relax and be at peace with yourself you need to affirm yourself. Record yourself if that’s easier for you to work with and play it while you’re preparing breakfast. What’s your I AM?
I AM strong
I Am loved
I Am Important
I Am Handsome
I Am Beautiful
I Am an overcomer
Affirming yourself every day allows you to build your self-esteem as well as build your character. You will be more confident which will make you feel like you can take on any task that is given to you. Affirming yourself is good for your mental health. Your I Am is your superpower. Try it!
It’s the 4th day of 2021. We’ve talked about Vision Boarding and how they’ve helped me to visualize my life over the years. Today I want to share three (3) self-help tips that you will need to visualize your dreams in 2021.
Here are a few tips to help you to create and attract the life you want:
1.Make yourself a priority:Stay in bed all day,painting your nails, doing make up, watching Youtube videos, or simple doing nothing at all. Focus on you and your mental being. Taking care of yourself is paramount. Once you’re energized and motivated you will be motivated to achieve all your goals.
2.Decluttering: Your mental health is very important. If it doesn’t bring you joy let it go. Cutting ties with everything that consistently hurts you as well as being prepared to cut off that part of you that allows that kind of hurt. You are well on your way to realizing your dreams. A freeing spirit allows you to excel and believe that you can achieve anything.
3.Create Boundaries: In 2021 we want everyone to know that although we love them we can do so from a distance. Creating boundaries allows you to breathe. It’s ok to say no, to that request. In 2021 let’s say no without giving unnecessary explanations as to why we’re saying no. Explanations open room for the other party to play on your emotions which will make you end up saying yes to something you truly didn’t want to in the first place.
I hope these tips will provide clarity, and you will achieve everything you’ve set out to for 2021 and beyond.